Category: Psychology

  • Join the anti-social network at Enroot

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    My good friend and former neighbor Ryan Goldberg did something very cool recently: created an app. We chatted about it several months ago, and the next thing I knew it had taken root. I’ve never known anyone else that has done this, and it’s been fascinating to hear how Ryan, a New Jersey physician by day, came up with the concept and then worked with a developer to feed and water the idea through from creation to launch.

    The app is called enroot, and Ryan describes it as a “collective consciousness project.” Here’s more:

    enroot encourages a different kind of sharing compared to the traditional self-advertising of social media. Sharing that goes a bit deeper into who we are and what it is like living the human experience; an anonymous anti-social network not looking to make friends, but to share understanding.

    Being somewhat social media phobic until I decided to publish a book and had to get comfortable with it, the idea of an anonymous anti-social network was intriguing to me!

    Here’s how the app works:

    enroot starts with asking users to anonymously sign in. No identifying information is collected. The next step is providing some information about yourself–gender, age range, religious background, political leaning, etc. The app is broken down into three main screens: Listen, Tell, and Watch. The Tell screen is the posting screen. Any sort of post is welcomed. As a user posts their message they are asked to identify an emotional state to go along with the message. This emotion is represented by a color that goes along with the message to the Listen screen, the screen where anonymous messages are read. The emotion color is also dropped as a pin on a map in the Watch screen that is geolocated to the users area. The Watch map was designed to be able to develop an emotion map to get a sense of how an area is feeling. In time, with enough users, the map would become an ever-changing, almost living creation of users contributing to enroot. What is completely unique to enroot is the ability to filter posts by the demographic information entered by the users. Users can filter posts by using one or all of the demographic categories asked at login. Messages can be heard to notify the writer that their sentiment was understood. The Tell screen  keeps a diary of Told messages that also keeps track of how many times a message was heard.

    I’ve been playing around with enroot, and it’s kind of addictive. One of my favorite aspects is the map Ryan describes that shows the color-coded emotions of people as they post their Tells. As users are added the map could eventually show the collective moods of wide swathes of the world. Imagine how a country might look after their national team won the World Cup, or on a more somber side, after a tragedy. Very cool idea, no?

    I asked Ryan to tell me more about how he came up with the concept:

    My inspiration for enroot  grew out of the hopeful ideal that as individuals we all have the same basic hopes and fears. We all experience the same reality; it is our interpretation of events that shapes it into our own.  I wanted to develop a platform that would allow for the anonymous sharing of an individual’s daily reality. How they see the world and interact within it.

    Life is made up of large and small moments. There are several outlets available, both in traditional media and mobile social media, that allow us to share these moments. Most of these outlets encourage a self-advertisement type of sharing—pictures of a vacation, job promotions, weekend adventures—which satisfies a lot of our desire to let others into our lives. Would we be willing to share these unplanned, more personal, and intimate times as we experience and feel them? Not all of these times are attractive or self promotional—they are our inner thoughts and dialogue—but they are common experiences which, over time, help define what it is like to live today.

    enroot definitely has a psychological underpinning to it that I love. The anonymity of the app seems to allow people to feel free to share the negative emotions that are often carefully edited on platforms like Facebook or Twitter. I’ve been touched by the users I’ve seen on enroot struggling with sadness, loneliness, and disappointment. Of course there are also funny, angry, and mundane posts—they really run the gamut.

    New users are needed to help enroot reach its potential! Please give it a try if it sounds like something you’d, er, dig. I’ll meet up with you there . . . anonymously, of course.

    **enroot is free in the Apple App Store. It’s compatible with several versions of the iPhone, iPod, and iPad and requires iOS 5.0 or later. Here’s a link to it: http://www.sharesomethingdifferent.com/

  • You, too, Can Focus@Will

     

    Have you ever really needed to concentrate at work so you turned on music, only to find yourself moving to the groove or looking up the lyrics to songs instead of working? No? It must just be me.

    I typically listen to Pandora or Spotify while writing, but sometimes (often) the music distracts me instead of getting me into the mood of the scene or helping me focus. A commenter on a post about music at Writer Unboxed (a great website to follow for you writers out there. Thanks, Katie French, for turning me on to it) said they were beta testing a new music website called Focus@Will (www.focus@will.com). It’s a free service that plays only music specifically chosen to help those of us, like writers, journalists, lawyers, students, and coders, who spend long, uninterrupted hours at the computer doing work that takes concentration and focus.

    A self described “cognitive enhancement company,” Focus@Will uses “artificial intelligence to deliver you the perfect playlist that gets you and keeps you in the concentration sweet spot, based on what you are doing.” According to their website, the service was designed with brain science in mind (so to speak) to play “certain music tracks in specific sequences that are proven to soothe the limbic system (the fight or flight survival mechanism in the brain) . . . allowing you to concentrate more fully on what you are trying to do.” They claim their curated music lists can help you concentrate for up to 100 minutes before you need a break.

    I’ve been beta testing Focus@Will for about two weeks now. It was easy to sign up, and very easy to start using. There are several musical “genres” you can choose from and change at any time, like classical, ambient, up tempo (which is still pretty mellow), or cinematic (my fav for writing.) They each play a bit different sequence of music, but one thing is constant. No singing or talking. Instrumental only. And I have to say I think the idea works as advertised. I concentrate better while writing with Focus@Will on in the background.

    I follow their advice and only turn their music on when I’m ready to work. This supposedly trains my brain that this music = get to work. If I’m going to check email or jump on Twitter or Facebook or anything else, I turn it off. I also try to take breaks whenever I find my concentration drifting or when the laundry needs changing, whichever comes first. In addition, they recommend that you “teach” the system which tracks are not working for you. If you notice a track (that is, it distracts you by catching your attention) then you should click the Skip button. I haven’t done much of that, because I haven’t found many of the tracks very distracting.

    If I have one complaint, it’s that the music is not terribly varied. If I notice particular tracks, it’s usually because I’m sick of hearing them repeated. But they apparently use a sequence of music on purpose, so your brain recognizes the sequence and stays on task instead of chasing off into the fields to follow its nose.

    A paid service is coming soon, so hop over and check out the free beta now if you’re interested. I don’t know if I’d be willing to pay for it, but for now I’m enjoying focusing@will.

    Do you have other suggestions for good writing music services/websites, or other methods you use to stay focused?

  • My Goals for 2013

    English: Two New Year's Resolutions postcards

    Our family decided to write up goals (AKA New Year’s Resolutions) for 2013 and share them with each other. My husband and I talked to the children about how to make their goals SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, timely.) It was very entertaining to hear a six year old’s goals. We can’t complain; they were pretty SMART:

    1) I will watch Phineas and Ferb every day until I permanently speak like Dr. Doofenschmirtz.

    2) I vow to bedevil my sister at least four times a week until she smacks me in frustration.

    3) I will wash my hands EVERY time after using the toilet, AND flush. (Okay, we helped with this one. Now, please, please let it stick.)

    Here is a nice little article on helping New Year’s Resolutions stick from the American Psychological Association. It says you should: 1) start small, 2) change one behavior at a time, 3) talk about your goals with friends and family, 4) don’t beat yourself up if you get off track, and 5) ask for support.

    In the interest of number 3—sharing my goals with friends, family, and interested readers who stop by my blog—the following are my goals for 2013 in several different areas of my life, starting with writing:

     

    1) Be productive. Complete the rough drafts of two novels in 2013.

    This doesn’t include The Scourge, Book 2. That’s already written. I mean to write the rough drafts of two new novels, whether they are in The Scourge world or in a totally new world. I’ve had a few characters knocking around my head for the past year that REALLY want to come out.

    2) Read at least one book per month focused on improving my writing, and attend at least one writing workshop this year.

    I want to improve as a writer. The more I write, the more I theoretically should improve. But I’m going to help it along by reading a lot more about the craft of writing, at least one of ’em per month. I’m also super excited to attend the Big Sur Writing Workshop in March, co-hosted by Andrea Brown Literary Agency.

    3) Go to sleep by 11:30pm.

    I’m a night owl. I wrote Book 1 of The Scourge between the hours of 9pm and 1am, and I do almost all of my reading at night. But I tend to stay up WAYYY too late. After a few late nights I’m inevitably grumpy and exhausted the next day, which conflicts with my first goal of being productive. So I’ve decided to give myself a bed time. Luckily I function pretty normally on 6.5 to 7 hours of sleep a night, so an 11:30 bedtime isn’t bad.

    4) Cook at least three times a week.

    I flat out fail at getting organized to make dinner most weeks, which results in crappy, thrown together meals and then guilt that the children are eating hotdogs or mac and cheese. Again. My husband does better than I do, but I’d like to make it a priority for myself. So I plan to enlist the family’s help in deciding what to make on Sunday, get the groceries, and have a meal plan. I should have done this years ago, but hey, that’s what New Year’s resolutions are about. Trying to make things habits that should have become habits years ago.

    5) Be grateful. Complain less if at all. Be positive.

    This was actually the first goal on my list, I just rearranged them here to put writing goals first. I wouldn’t say I’m a particularly ungrateful person, but sometimes I catch myself complaining about things that in most people’s worlds, would be laughable. Working with a population of homeless, indigent, and drug and alcohol addicted people makes my heart ache. It also makes me very aware of the many things I have to be grateful for, and that those things were mostly bestowed on me at birth, not earned. I plan to focus every day on being grateful for everything I have, even if that goal isn’t measurable. And on the heels of that . . .

    6) Start a family service project that we do once a month.

    I would like to do more volunteer work, and involve the kids. Things as simple as going around our neighborhood picking up trash, or bringing canned goods or supplies to the local food bank or the animal shelter. I will schedule the times in advance to be sure we do it.

    I have a couple other goals, but I’m going to start with these. If you got through reading all of them, thank you for bearing witness! Now I’m curious, did you make any New Years resolutions, and if so, what are they?

     

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  • What I needed to hear

    Sometimes, while working with a therapy client, they tell me that something I said prompted an important change in their thinking, behavior, or intentions. Although that’s often how therapy works, the actual moment of influence can be a surprise to me. I say a lot of things, and most of them go in one ear and out the other. Just ask my children.

    When I saw this review of The Scourge come through Goodreads **, it was one of those moments. But in reverse. It was what I needed to hear.

    I’ve had a bad week in terms of writing. I haven’t felt creative or motivated, and I’ve been doubting myself. If they crowned a Queen of Procrastination, I’d be lounging on the throne right now. Or whenever I got around to it.

    I actually read Leann’s review while walking Guapo the dog—perfect procrastination move, because it lets me feel like I’m doing something good for him, instead of just wasting precious writing time. While he lifted his leg on the 149th bush, I stood on the sidewalk laughing at Leann’s last line. It was like she saw right through me. I immediately walked home and sat down to write.

    So thank you, Leann, for reading The Scourge, for your kind review, and for motivating me to get back to writing. My goal for the sequel will be to try to earn that fifth star from you.

    **For those of you who don’t know about Goodreads.com, do yourself a favor and check it out. Even if you don’t actively participate, it’s a fantastic place to lurk and browse for new books and authors to fall in love with.

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  • Boundary issues

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    I have a confession to make. I have a boundary problem.

    Boundaries are important to psychologists. Good boundaries allow us to have healthy relationships, to be able to say “no” to new responsibilities when our plates are full (or to say “no” to seconds when our plates are empty for that matter), and to be able to support clients through terrible experiences without being overwhelmed ourselves. Boundaries tell us where we end and someone else starts. They allow us to make good decisions for ourselves.

    So I was disturbed the other night when I realized I have terrible boundaries in one area of my life. (more…)

  • If it smells like pain everywhere you go . . .

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    In this week’s post I’d like to venture once again into topics utterly unrelated to reading or writing, and instead share my hands-down favorite saying in psychology. It applies so well to so many situations.

    If it smells like s**t everywhere you go, it might be you.

    Think about that. Doesn’t it possess the unmistakable ring of profound psychological truth?

    Bear with me as I provide an oral illustration. A few weeks ago I was in the waiting area at the dentist, about to see a new hygienist. A neighbor came out of the back room holding her cheek. She gave me a look that said her visit had been as much fun as a root canal (yes, it very well could have been a root canal given the setting, but it turns out she was just there for a cleaning.) In earshot of the hygienist, she said she was surprised it had hurt so much, especially since she felt she was doing a better-than-average job of taking care of her teeth. Brushing, flossing, obsessive whitening, the works. So I felt unusually trepidatious when I was called back. I’m not a nervous dental patient by any means, but there was something about the combination of new hygienist + obvious pain reaction of previous patient that made me as tense as a snowman in the sun. (more…)